My Black is NOT Cracking.

I'm not Aging. I'm appreciating in value!

A hand-drawn illustration of a closet filled with clothes, including neatly hung shirts and a floral dress, alongside stacked storage bins holding folded garments, with a sign reading 'MEMORIES' on top.

Iโ€™m in full closet clean-out mode.

You know the ritual.

The seasonal migration.

Winter clothes go into exile, stuffed into plastic bins like they did something wrong, and spring/summer gets resurrected.

I got rid of four Amazon bins of clothes in 2024.

FOUR!

That felt like growth.  Healing. Personal evolution. I let go of a lot of my favorite size 2 items.  That was a little easier, because I have absolutely no desire to be that tiny again!

Apparentlyโ€ฆ it was just a warm-up act.

Because as I sat there, opening these clear plastic bins, staring at the contents like artifacts from a past life, I realized:

This is not a closet. This is a museum. And every piece has a story.

Thereโ€™s that dress! Oooh. That was a fun night. I remember fun. I think. It has been a while.

There is the one I wore when life felt lighter. When everyone I loved was still here.  Thereโ€™s the outfit I wore to my granddaughterโ€™s graduation. And just like that, Iโ€™m not sorting clothes anymore, Iโ€™m standing in a moment I would give anything to step back into.

Thereโ€™s a top my younger, bolder self, wore. Back when my confidence didnโ€™t require a pep talk and a backup plan. I literally change clothes three or four times each day and not just because of the dress code of the new job (which I haven’t had in thirty years!) but because I’m typically unhappy with the way I look.

And thenโ€ฆ there are the body memories.

Oh yeah!  My favorite kind of disrespect. Because itโ€™s not just the clothes. Itโ€™s the body that used to fill them.

The knees that didnโ€™t look like they were wearing meat curtains.

The calves that had ambition.

The arms filled with muscle.

The armpitsโ€ฆ listenโ€ฆ nobody prepared me for the plot twist that is the aging of armpits. I feel like they too should be wearing panties! Iโ€™m just going to leave that right there.

And somehow, every piece of clothing is holding onto that version of me like:

โ€œShe might come back.โ€ And Iโ€™m standing knowing the truthโ€ฆ. โ€œShe ain’t coming back.โ€

But hereโ€™s the truth no one tells you about decluttering.  Youโ€™re not just getting rid of clothes. Youโ€™re letting go of versions of yourself.

And that is hard.

Because even the versions that are goneโ€ฆ mattered. The body that changedโ€ฆ carried you here. The moments that are overโ€ฆ shaped who you are now.

So yeah, I stood there longer than necessary. Debating about things I havenโ€™t worn in years.

Releasing the past, even when itโ€™s stitched into outdated fabric, is not easy.

But hereโ€™s what Iโ€™m learning in this whole โ€œShedding 2.0โ€ season.  Itโ€™s a SEASON OF RENEWAL. (I stole that from Greg Osbyโ€™s 1989 recording title.)

Some things arenโ€™t meant to fit you anymore.

Not the clothes.

Not the life.

Not the version of yourself that lived inside them.

And maybe the goal isnโ€™t to squeeze back into who you were, but to make space for who youโ€™re becoming.

Even if she needs new clothes.


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