My Black is NOT Cracking.

I'm not Aging. I'm appreciating in value!

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I checked my activity on Instagram yesterday and was horrified.
Two hours a day! What in the actual f*#k?
On average.

I am posting this today, because it feels urgent. You can think about it over the weekend.

Now in my defense, some days I barely touched it. (I sure hope this includes the dozens of reels sent by friends and family to view!) But apparently other days said, “How about we make up the difference today?” That is an insane amount of time to waste. Two hours a day? That’s a part-time job. With no benefits. And definitely no retirement plan. I could write a book in a matter of months if I dedicated those two hours a day to writing! And let us be real. A large percentage of what is posted is fake, AI, lies, misinformation and folks desperate to be seen, so they stick their big ass heads down in the corner and shake their heads for dramatic affect.

What makes it worse is I’m always rushing, short on time, behind on my goals, and can’t seem to find enough hours for self-care or the projects I actually care about. Meanwhile… the phone is over there like, “Girl, do it later.” BUT it’s already LATER!

As we get older, time starts to feel less like an endless resource and more like a limited-edition item. So, I have to ask myself, do I really have time to waste? We can all use a good laugh, and sure, some people get legit news from social media by following independent journalists. But let’s be honest… that is not what most of us are doing when we’re scrolling. We’re not staying informed. We’re watching strangers organize their pantry and comparing our lives to people using filters and good lighting.

Again, in my defense, I look at a lot of art and I follow a lot of fine artists. I find it inspiring and I have learned techniques for whenever I get around to picking up the paint brush again. I also look for inspiration in the kitchen and you can find some really good ideas and recipes to try. I’m going to hope that is where the majority of my two hours was spent! (Looking at food and watching painting demos! Yup. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it. It’s mostly true.) Not sure that’s what ya’ll are looking at!

If you have goals—real goals, important things you want to accomplish, do you really want to waste your precious time scrolling? Not to mention how addicted we’ve become. So addicted that we’re missing what’s actually happening right in front of us. We’re busy taking pictures of life instead of living it.

Photos are nice. But we took a whole lot fewer of them when we had to get them developed and it cost money! Back then, you documented the important moments, not your nail polish options or your ugly brown pot roast you just made. Some things were allowed to exist without proof.

Look up. Look ahead.

I’ve been in the gym waiting on a machine while someone sits on it texting like they’re negotiating a peace treaty. I’ve been in restaurants where every single person is staring at a phone instead of the people they came with. It’s troubling how addicted and detached we’ve become.

I’m not saying throw your phone into the ocean. I’m just saying… maybe don’t give it two hours of your life every day while telling yourself you don’t have time for you. Think about all the things you could have done with those two hours!

Work out? Learn something? Relax with a good book? Meditate? Take a walk? Reach out to a friend? Organize and declutter?

Time is the one thing we can’t get back. And I’m starting to realize, it’s not that I don’t have enough of it. It’s that I and many others have been giving too much of it away!

USE IT WISELY THIS WEEKEND.

2 thoughts on “LOOK UP – EYES AHEAD!

  1. Cheryl says:

    Hey sis! The point about writing the book really hit home. My screen time is enormous, and it’s got to come to a stop!

    1. KAVON says:

      I think most folk would be surprised by how much time they waste scrolling!

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